Thursday, 20 October 2016

Sending Gifts

Gifts. We don't give each other enough of them. We don't send each other postcards, letters, little 'I saw this and thought of you' moments. Why not? We all love receiving gifts, we all love giving them. So why have so many of us stopped? Is it quicker and easier to knock off a couple of social media kisses, a blue thumbs up every once in a while? I am not saying that we need to turn clocks back, dress in ribbons, and concentrate on our needlepoint. Technology is here, it is now an integral part of our lives, and I see it as a huge plus factor in where we are now, and definitely in where we are going. However, we do need to remember to connect and keep connecting, to surprise others, and surprise ourselves. Send a gift to someone you love/admire/value, it will make their day and show you care and value them.

Thursday, 13 October 2016


It often feels as if we live in a world of turmoil and chaos, that people's emotions are all bubbling away on the surface, distracting us. It can all so easily bleed through into our own lives, and often does. It makes us drift, lose our position in space and time, creating blurred worlds for us to live in. We become wrapped in our perceived hurts and wrongs, we lose focus. Focus, it is such a beautiful word, it is a pinpoint of light in darkness, a guiding light for the path we need to tread. To me, focus is often a verbal telling off to myself - stop whining and focus. Focus on what can you do, rather than what you can't? A lesson learnt.

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Writing as Catharsis

To me, writing is cathartic. It is about examining, understanding, and accepting my relationship with myself, my relationship with others, my relationship to all and everything. It isn't my only tool, but it has always been a valued and consistent one. I write down my thoughts as I am doing here, and it helps to let go of stuff, let go of bottled pressure. Taking my thoughts and transferring them to written words seems to help keep the balance. I have no idea how people manage to cope with pressures and backed up thoughts without some form of creative release, creativity helps to free the mind, literally. I have always been forever grateful for that gift, and have never taken it lightly.

Thursday, 29 September 2016

Nice Can Be Good

Nice can be good, nice can be relaxing, chilled, the evaporating of stored tension. We carry so much around with us, so much stress, anguish, hurt, pile upon pile, an enormous burden worthy of Atlas. Most of the time we don't even know we have most of it. We suffer from stress, we all do, but we think that we suffer from manageable levels, it isn't until we come to 'nice' moments that we realise that the stress plates, the screaming, screeching tectonic burden that we live with, is cumulative and always, always mounting. To me personally, I could sit on a beach, by a stream, under a tree, and the levels of tension will drop, but marginally. Being with another person, one who cares, understands, feels, who sits or walks with you, talks with you, laughs and smiles with you, who is there just because, that is nice, and nice, despite what people think, can really move mountains, and often does.

Thursday, 15 September 2016


So what does the past mean to me? - no regrets!
So what does the present mean to me? - enjoy it while it's hot!
So what does the future mean to me? - the horizon of possibilities!

Thursday, 8 September 2016

An Attitude Thought

A woman in big wellies noted a while back, "I don't know how you don't get covered in mud wearing those sneakers!"

So I looked at her, and looked at her unattractive wellies, and I answered silently with a head thought, "Because I glide dear, I don't stride."

Thursday, 1 September 2016

Little Adventures

Life is full of little adventures, if you want it to be of course. We can easily shut them out, many do. Life seems somehow more manageable if we shut things down, deal with what we know, rather than what we don't, lock ourselves into routine and repetition, and its comforts. But you know, there can be so much more to life, so many small gems, unexpected and unexpectable episodes, the little adventures.

Isn't it better to either take those adventures when they present themselves, rather than making excuses as to why you can't or shouldn't take them, and even better, arrange your own adventures. Create new paths, no matter how small, how seemingly trivial. Life can actually be about the silly and the nonsensical, the insignificant and the overlooked, just as much as it is about the major events. Life, as it should be lived is about the small adventures, as it is about the big.

Thursday, 25 August 2016

Smart(ie) Deadlines

Whenever I get close to a deadline, to be honest whenever I am slammed up so close to it that I can't draw a breath, I resort to the seeming smart choice, smarties. Comfort food, habit, I don't know, but they do seem to get me through to the other side of deadlines, largely intact and sane-ish, though with a slight wide-eyed buzz. I am sure that they are totally the wrong thing to be eating when stressed, in fact I know they are. But sometimes you need to switch off the constant lecturing from your head, and just nuzzle down into the "now doesn't that just hit the spot" space. In other words, you sometimes need to tell your head to just "shup!" Oh, and by the way, I don't love to share, they're mine!

Friday, 19 August 2016

Helping Hand

We all need a helping hand now and again. Accepting that hand doesn't make us weak, or vulnerable, in fact it makes us stronger. To accept advice, guidance, support when it is heartfelt given, is a self-renewing gift. We are nothing without our network of friends, connections, supporters, those who wish us well for our own sake, not theirs, and of course that network is and should always be infinitely reciprocal. Life is not about struggle, but about support, it is not an evolutionary lone fight for survival, but an acceptance of cooperation. Above all, it is about both giving and accepting the helping hand with a grace and generosity that we are all infinitely capable of. It is certainly something we should be encouraged to do a lot more often, whether as individual, community, or planet, and it is one of the saddest tragedies that we so often don't.

Friday, 12 August 2016

Travelling Feet

Got myself to thinking about travelling recently. I don't mean necessarily seeing the Taj Mahal, Grand Canyon and all, just pottering around the UK from time to time, getting on a bus or train, visiting friends and acquaintances old and new. Just connecting and reconnecting really, very much a "so what have you been up to?" sort of thing. It's good to be out on your feet, getting out there and doing stuff, and of course me being me, I immediately thought " wow, I could turn it into a really cool project!" So be warned, I might well drop in on you, and you might be part of a project.